When I first began goal setting, I thought I knew what it was all about. I was setting goals for myself to push myself and to achieve what I really desired.
However, my basic understanding of goal setting and goal achievement was leading me to become selfish and ungrateful.
I was focused on what I wanted, on what I was doing or not doing, and when things didn’t turn out the way I expected them to, I was frustrated. I was focused on getting the results and I didn’t feel free like I thought I would.
I was a go-getter, but this was a bad energy to be in. It was a getting-energy. It was selfish, even though my nature is caring and giving, so it didn’t feel right. Does this sound familiar?
So, what was I missing?...
…What I was missing was understanding. Therein lies the root of all our problems, ignorance.
In this instance, I was missing a big part of the picture. In fact, I was looking at it backwards!
I didn’t understand that setting goals is about giving and growing through giving.
What I know now is that giving always precedes receiving, this is the natural state of things. So, your goal is actually something you receive as a result of giving a certain level of value you give to other people.
Is this always the case?
Yes, because of the universal law of cause and effect. This is Isaac Newton’s third law; every action has an equal and opposite reaction. Or everything received comes to you because of what you give.
Over the past year or so, I’ve worked on flipping this belief in my mind, to focus on giving. This has totally changed the dynamic of goal achievement for me.
It released pressure which I built up in me from wanting to get. It has allowed me to focus on growing better where previously my focus was on getting. My ability to help other people is way ahead of what it was. And it has made me more confident in what I do and how I can help others, so I now value myself more.
It has also made me more grateful for everything I receive, including my challenges which help me grow even better, and God knows there’s always plenty of them!
So, how can this awareness help you?
Goal achievement is a natural process as it follows the law of cause and effect. The bigger you set your sights, the more growth and giving you must do. This is why thinking big and setting big goals inspires you; it speaks to your Spiritual side. Setting small goals rarely inspires people because it doesn’t involve you helping people fulfil their desires or you fulfilling your own desires. I speak of desire as happiness, health and wealth in whatever form you have an intense longing for.
Setting a big inspiring goal of earning €1 million annually might seem unrealistic to you. So why would you set it? Because it forces you to harness the power of a Go-Giver!
Remember, the best breakthroughs have come when people achieve unrealistic goals. Think of the achievements in technology for the past 20 years. Most of these advancements would have been totally unrealistic 21 years ago, and now that they are here, we have all benefitted immensely and they are part of our normal everyday life.
Can you give too much?
If you want to become a master at giving (and therefore receiving), you need to first understand what you’re really dealing with. You are dealing with an infinite supply of universal energy. Infinite means endless and unlimited. The only thing limiting your ability to help others is your limiting beliefs.
Albert Schweitzer once said, “if you own something you cannot give away, then you don’t own it, it owns you.”
Take your mind of yourself for a moment and think of how you can help other people solve their problems. If you can help enough people get what they want, then, by law, you will get what you want!
Here’s a challenge to set yourself; how good can you get at giving?
Best of luck!
John
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