Have you heard of 'Want Management'?
Almost everyone has heard of time management, and many probably studied it somewhere along their educational journey. The dictionary definition of time management is the ability to use ones’ time effectively or productively, especially at work.
But I want to introduce you to a new concept which I feel is more than important than managing your time.
The concept is Want Management. This is a term I coined which refers to an individuals’ ability to know what they want and actively pursue it!
As a mindset coach, I talk to people daily about what they want, from income to health to relationships to you name it, people want lots of things! Our conscious mind is our wanting mind. It just wants more and more of everything.
Think about this, did you ever find yourself in a situation where you were just after buying something new and exciting, but soon after you saw a different version and wanted that too? I have! And I used to think there was something wrong with me for wanting more, like I was just being greedy wanting something else.
But I didn’t understand that when you are a human being, wanting more is natural, and it’s essential if we want to reach our full potential.
One of our most important tasks is to choose which of our ‘wants’ we want the most and make the decision to go after it. You see decision means to cut off, so you are always sacrificing the rest of the cake for one slice! That’s life!
Where I see people struggle most is in choosing the right option for them.
For instance, let’s say Chris is buying a new car. On one-hand, Chris thinks he should buy a Ford Focus because it is more affordable and will get him from A to B. On the other hand, Chris has always had a desire to drive a Mercedes Benz, because he feels it is the best car out there. But he can’t see where the money is going to come from for the latter.
What should he do?
Well, if Chris was like most people, he would buy the Ford Focus.
Why? Because he lets ‘the how’ make his decisions. He let money make the decision.
This is why I believe people struggle so much. They don’t decide on the thing they really want; the thing they desire. They settle for what they think is ‘realistic’, and therefore let ‘the how’ decide for them.
There is a big flaw in the ‘the how’, because most people think from their current situation, and what we think about becomes our reality.
If you let the facts of your current situation decide for you, for example, money, income, current occupation, net profit, etc., you will never have any more than you have right now! This is a vicious cycle.
This internal battle of ‘the how’ versus ‘the want’ is detrimental to peoples’ wellbeing as they can’t decide. Indecision causes doubt and worry, and fear sets in about the consequences of their decision.
If you really want to take control of your life, you need to know how to make decisions based on what you want.
When you decide on what you want and make a committed decision to get it, you have started the process of turning your wants into desires. Desire is an emotionalised want. It is a want that has moved from the conscious to the subconscious mind. A desire is something that moves you to action and starts to attract opportunities for its’ realisation.
This month at John Douglas Coaching is Desire month. Desires are very special because your strongest desires have already become your reality, as all desires move into form. If you’re not happy with certain aspects of your life, investigate your desires in this area.
You haven’t chosen all your desires; many have been programmed into you. Like in the example above, Chris has a desire to let money make his decisions. This was probably programmed into him from a young child. This is not a good thing as it puts money first and Chris second. Chris needs a stronger desire to decide only on what he wants, so he can overcome old desires.
If you really want something, you need to consciously make it your purpose to turn it into a burning desire. We use the term burning desire, because it is like a fire that needs constant fuel to keep it lit. When you build a burning desire, your desire will take over, we refer to this as an obsession. If you’re desire is a good thing, then this is a healthy obsession.
Where would you rate yourself on want management?
Here are some questions that will help you analyse your ability to get what you want.
Do I feel I have full control over what’s coming into my life?
Do I regularly write out who I want to be or the things I want to do or to have?
Are my wants crystal clear?
Do I let money, time or people decide for me?
Do I make decisions based only on what I want?
Do I settle too easily?
Start to get serious about turning your wants into desires. It is the only way to get what you want. Remember all desires move into form. You do not have to entertain ideas about how they will move into form, just know that when you build a burning desire for something it must move into your physical reality. This is having strong faith.
If you would like more help deciding what you want, please get in touch, I’d love to help you!