Build Your Confidence To Decide Your Life!
Updated: May 12
Napoleon Hill analysed 25,000 men and women who had experienced failure and concluded that poor decision making was near the top of the 30 major causes of failure. He also concluded that good decision making was near the top habit for those who experienced success. There are 13 principles for success in his book Think and Grow Rich. One of these principles is Decision-Making.
Decision-Making is a simple thing which we do numerous times every day without batting an eyelid. And it is one of the most important things we will ever do. So you’d think we’d be good at decision making!
But we are not. If you think you are good at decision making, just look at your results – your income, job, home, car, holidays, relationships, health, hobbies, etc. – are they all beyond your wildest dreams? Or are they ‘good enough’, ‘grand’, or ‘satisfactory’?
Are you aware that your current results all started with a past decision?
I wasn’t aware. I always thought things just happened to me! But they don’t. There’s a reason for everything. And guess what, you’re the common denominator of all your results.
Basically, people who can’t decide on what they want, who never commit to anything, and who change their minds often are poor decision makers and doomed to failure. It is a hard Truth.
But, luckily for us, Napoleon also tells us how to develop excellent Decision-Making skills. Decisions should always be made quickly and based on WHAT YOU WANT.
If you agree with this, do you follow through?
Do you really believe that you can buy something that you can’t afford? Do you really believe that you can do something way out of your comfort zone? Do you really believe you can be anyone who you want to be?
Be Honest with yourself.
Most people think they decide based on what they want, but when you look at how they make decisions, it is totally out of harmony with this idea. Most decisions are limited and restricted based on money available, past results, and Confidence.
You see poor Decision-Making is not the real cause of bad decisions. The real cause is a lack of Confidence.
Confidence gives you the feeling that you know what you’re doing and you’re sure of yourself. Close to 98% of peoples’ confidence stops at the edge of their comfort zone and doesn’t allow them to make decisions that mean they have to leave it. It is survival instinct. But it is holding you back!
In fact, low confidence doesn’t even allow you to think outside the comfort zone. Low confidence leads to weak and dormant imaginations. If you have low confidence, you mightn’t even want to risk leaving the comfort zone of your own thoughts because it causes anxiety and worry.
So if you want to start making decisions which put you back in control of your life and the results you want, you need to build you’re confidence.
You need to start focusing on your wins. Buy a notepad and write down 5 wins you’ve had today. Set yourself a challenge, do this for 30 days!
This might not make any sense to you, but do it. Keep track of every win. There are no such thing as big or small wins. It is often an accumulation of small wins which make up the big win!
Getting up early, eating healthy, working out, reading, setting a goal, acting on your goal – these wins over a period of time build up your confidence. Start setting some daily goals which stretch you out of your comfort zone. Maybe you sign up for something in work, or you post a selfie on social media, whatever it is start doing it! Get outside the comfort zone and get some wins!
Get to the stage that if someone asks you, ‘when was the last time you did something for the first time?’, that your answer is always TODAY!
My Vision for my life is to directly influence 1,000 people through my mindset coaching business so they can create a happier, healthier, wealthier life by achieving their goals. If you would like help creating your vision, please get in touch!