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Why you might struggle to feel fulfilled

Did you know that living a fulfilled life is not something that happens by accident to random people.

Fulfilment in life is your choice.

This choice is available to you regardless of where you are starting from. Even if you are homeless with no money or friends, you can turn your life around.

It all starts with taking responsibility. In the past, I would never have tied freedom and fulfilment with responsibility, and this is why I never made any progress on this journey. I seemed to have an idea of what I wanted but I never took responsibility for thinking and acting on it.

I was waiting for something to happen, that big break, and in the meantime, I was settling for a life not worthy of me. I was conforming, and conforming is a dangerous way to live.

“The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice. It is conformity. And there you have the reason for so many failures. Conformity – people acting like everyone else, without knowing why or where they are going.” – Earl Nightingale.

If you follow the approach which most people take, then chances are you won’t be truly fulfilled. You see it’s OK for sheep to follow each other, as it’s instinct. Sheep survive better as a flock; conforming is the natural and the safer way. They are perfectly at ease in their environment.

But why do so many people still live as if they need to follow the crowd for survival? Because of fear.

Conformity is a survival mechanism driven by fear. And anything driven by fear is paralysing, degrading and makes us feel less human.

Did you ever feel like you made a decision just because others were doing it? Was there a fear in being or doing something different because of what others might say or what might happen you?

For your own development, you need to know that as a human being, you have the right to choose who you want to be and where you want to go.

It is not only your right, but your privilege, to differentiate yourself.

So what brings freedom and fulfilment to you is what differentiates you and makes you, YOU!

Know it. Act on it. And be proud of it!

Now this might seem odd, but all your freedom is derived from control.

And freedom in the human being starts with mindset because if you control the thoughts and feelings in your mind, to focus on what you want, then (by law) they must move into the physical reality of your life.

On the other hand, if you lack self-control, your thoughts about yourself and your situation are nearly certain to be negative, and this will cause you feel negative. This negative energy will manifest in your life in your physical reality as your doubts, worries, and fears.

How could you really classify yourself as being free if you can’t control your thoughts?

Being in control of your mindset is critical to live an amazing life of freedom and fulfilment.

Since I’ve consciously taken responsibility for my mindset, it has changed my life dramatically for the better, and I know you can do the same!

It might seem a truism, but if you haven’t chosen to take responsibility for living a free and fulfilled life, then chances are you’re struggling to feel fulfilled in your life right now.

You must think and ask yourself what makes my life feel better? What do I do or who am I with when I seem to feel more alive?

If any of these ideas resonate with you, you need to do yourself a favour and get in touch with me. I have an absolutely brilliant mentorship programme starting this September called Freedom and Fulfilment. It is a 10-week programme which can change the direction of your life like you wouldn’t believe.

Send me an email at or message me on Instagram @johndouglascoaching

Yours in Freedom and Fulfilment,


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